Nowadays, serious conversations are events that people tend to try to avoid - especially teenagers. They require more emotion than most of us are willing to expose to any other person, and they mean expelling jokes from our minds for a period of time. It is natural for people to prefer laughter over straight faces and sometimes tears.
Sometimes, though, serious conversations can be essential to the maintenance of a relationship, be it platonic, romantic, or familial. As much as we hate to admit it, sometimes we have to make ourselves vulnerable and wear our hearts on our sleeves. Sometimes, we have to cut ties with people we love, or change the nature of a relationship, because that’s what’s best for the safety, sanity, and happiness of the people involved.
Serious conversations are never easy. In fact they tend to suck. And they sometimes leave you wanting to punch your pillow or scream at the top of your lungs, or even just cry until your tear ducts are dry. But if you know that you’re having the conversation because you or someone you love will be happier in the long-run because of it, serious conversations can be the most rewarding kind.
And we’ll never be royals It don’t run in our blood That kind of lux just ain’t for us We crave a different kind of buzz Let me be your ruler, you can call me Queen Bee And baby I’ll rule (I’ll rule I’ll rule I’ll rule…) Let me live that fantasy -Lorde <3
When you’re a kid, you live in a kind of bubble. Your parents are always there to protect you from anything and everything, and even when you think you do, you never really have to fend for yourself. You go through your childhood thinking that this is the way life will always be, and then you go to high school.
The days of your happy-go-lucky, problem-free, Hakuna Matata mentality are gone. You discover that people can and will be mean, and that there are some things in life that even your parents can’t shield you from. You experience so many new things, like heartbreak and losing friends. People are changing and growing and sometimes they don’t change for the better. In the long run, though, the happenings of high school really shouldn’t affect us to the extent that we allow them to, because even high school isn’t the real world.
When you get to university, it’s a little bit more like reality. Most of the time, you’re living away from home for the first time, without your parents there as a shoulder to cry on. A lot of what you thought you knew to be true from high school is proven wrong. You discover that while people can and will be mean sometimes, they also can and will be really nice even more often. You learn that sometimes, your support system won’t be there when you need it and you’ll have to let yourself fall, and pick yourself back up again. You learn that what doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger, and that you really do live only once.
When I started university 2 weeks ago, I had no idea what to expect. The only standards I set for myself involved being happier, because I knew that only I could truly control that. So far, my experienced has been so much better than I ever though it would be. I’ve met so many people from whom I’ve already learned so much.
I am so thankful for all the experiences that I have had throughout my life, good and bad, that have brought me to where I am today. Sometimes it takes a wake up call to realize how much you have to loose, and how much you have to appreciate.